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Is my pregnant wife taking advantage of me?

As followers of my blog will know, I’ll do pretty much anything for my expectant wife to help minimise her pregnancy mood swings and generally ensure that she, and our growing baby, are as comfortable, happy and protected as possible.

But how far is too far when it comes to looking after your pregnant spouse?  In week 10 of our pregnancy, I discover the line that even I’m unwilling to cross…

As a dutiful dad in waiting, I’ve taken charge of all the household basics:

  • Make her breakfast in bed? CHECK
  • Empty the dishwasher? CHECK
  • Make sure she’s hydrated and taking her pregnancy vitamins? CHECK
  • Hang up the laundry? CHECK
  • Sort out the massive pile of ironing? CHECK
  • Make the bed? CHECK (with her in it)
  • Mow the lawn? CHECK
  • Pay the cleaner? CHECK
  • Stock the store cupboard with bland ‘morning-sickness friendly’ biscuits and crackers? CHECK
  • Constantly supply her with fresh hot water bottles? CHECK

Meanwhile, I have no problem with rushing out at any hour of the day or night to buy the chocolate bar she’s been craving, run her a bath or rub her aching feet. On one occasion, after a forced nap, I’ve even physically dressed her (much like you would a new baby or small child) so that she didn’t have to suffer a moment in the cold without any clothes on.

But the other day, she crossed the line…

My pregnant wife: I need to pee! (understandable…she goes about 10 times a day now)

Me, the dad to be: Go for it! Nobody’s stopping you…

Wife: I can’t…

Me: Oh no…why not?

Wife: It’s too cold…

Me: I’ll put the heating on.

Wife: No…the loo seat is too cold. Can you warm it for me?

Me: Sorry?

Wife: The loo seat, it’s freezing cold! Can you sit on it first to warm it up?

Me: Seriously?

Wife: Yes

Me: No way!

Wife: Pleeeeaaassse?!

To all you dads out there, I’m pleased to report that I stayed strong and stood my ground on this one #solidaritybrother. While I’m all for supporting my wife throughout this pregnancy, and have every sympathy (and the greatest respect) for what she’s going through, acting as her own personal loo seat warmer is just a step TOO far!

Saying that though, I did offer to fetch her the hairdryer…

29 weeks and 2 days left to go!

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  1. 7th March 2016 / 6:34 am

    I remember years ago hearing that Sterling Moss (Remember him?) had a heated loo seat. At the time I lived in a cold farmhouse with no heating in the bathroom and that sounded like the most luxurious thing you could have! That said I also never liked it if I went to the loo and the seat was warm as that meant some-one else’s bare bum (possibly a hairy bare bum) had just been there! #FabFridayPost

    • 6th March 2016 / 11:10 am

      Thanks for sharing buddy! Enjoy the cheat day!

  2. 6th March 2016 / 9:49 am

    I can’t believe she has you doing all of those things already! I can’t imagine what you’ll be doing by the time she’s ready to pop! Well done for standing your ground on the warming toilet seat part – maybe I just had a really easy pregnancy but I wouldn’t have expected half of what you are doing for her. The only reason I stopped cleaning was because I got pelvic girdle pain and would be in agony! I even stupidly did it sometimes and then regretted it when I couldn’t move! Of course it’s lovely that you are looking after her so well but I think the more you do for yourself in pregnancy, the stronger you are at the other end for childbirth (or recovering from csection if you have a breech baby!!). Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

  3. 5th March 2016 / 7:27 pm

    Ha ha…well done for standing your ground. I can’t imagine what you’ll be doing at 39 weeks!! Thanks for linking up with #FabFridayPosts

  4. 5th March 2016 / 5:32 am

    “In sickness and in health”….you have to be willing to do A LOT. I look at it like this, she is carrying the baby and going through all the horrible stages of pregnancy. I mean her body has to go from one size to the next in the next few months. I am not just saying this because I am a woman but more so a woman who can relate. Now I can say I have never told my husband to warm up the toilet seat. Although, we do say thanks every time one comes out and the other goes in or we make jokes about it. I am lucky enough to have the vent right next to our toilet seat (in the winter months it is great but oh geezus it is flipping cold in the summer). There is way more to come my friend and right now she probably just feels like crap and a nice warm toilet seat from the buns who cares about you the most is what she needs. Haha but that is parenthood!

  5. 4th March 2016 / 3:11 pm

    lol! This is such a hilarious post! You are doing a lot for your wife already. I think being a personal toilet seat warmer is so hilarious. Perhaps, she can sit on a warm towel instead – but then you’ll probably have a stinky towel after. Haha Thanks for linking up with #FabFridayPost

  6. 4th March 2016 / 2:34 pm

    Blimey, how lucky is your wife? I didn’t even get out of laundry duties when I was pregnant let alone get breakfast in bed. I think you were probably right to draw the line with warming the toilet seat though lol.


  7. anxiousmummyblog
    4th March 2016 / 12:03 pm

    Wow what an amazing support you are to your wife, I’ll be asking my hubby to read this before we get pregnant with number 2! Jemma x #coolmumclub

  8. 3rd March 2016 / 1:55 pm

    Lol and that’s just the beginning! You wait until baby comes! 😉 Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub mister super dad to be!

  9. 3rd March 2016 / 11:18 am

    OMG too funny!! Pls do share at the Practical Mondays Link Up!:)

    • 3rd March 2016 / 11:34 am

      Will do! Thanks for telling me about it!

  10. 1st March 2016 / 10:18 pm

    Haha! Yes, she probably is! I didn’t even get any of the things you are doing done for me in either of my pregnancies, so I would say hairdryer provision is probably sufficient! That said, I did have a friend many years ago whose husband (then boyfriend) would agree to go out in the cold in the mornings in winter, a couple of hours before he actually even needed to get up to go to work (she went to uni in another city and had a longer journey than him), to sit in her car and get it warm for her so she didn’t have to be in it while it was cold. & she was not pregnant. #twinklytuesday

    • 1st March 2016 / 10:26 pm

      Wow,now that’s some serious dedication!