We’re nearing the end of week 11 of our first pregnancy and, having not yet had our 12 week scan, our exciting news is still very much TOP SECRET.
But have our white lies over the past few weeks been believed or has everyone already figured out that we’re expecting?
Having been married for about nine months, the rumour mill is already in full swing, turning any outward irregularity or break from routine into a flashing red light, exclaiming “Hey, look over here! We’re having a baby!”
Every social event where my pregnant wife turns down a drink or says she’s driving, I can’t help but think that everyone must suspect we have a secret bun in the oven. But maybe I’m just being paranoid?
Not helping matters is the fact that I’m a terrible liar. Keeping such a monumental secret is a constant struggle for me, especially since I want nothing more than to shout our news from the rooftops.
So when friends and family ask what I’ve been up to recently, I can’t help but instigate an awkward silence while I frantically rack my brains for something interesting to say that doesn’t give away what I’ve actually been doing since early January:
- stressing over whether our baby will make it to 12 weeks
- looking after my pregnant wife
- researching what to expect during the first trimester
- and generally pouring all my spare time into launching this insanely popular dad blog and associated Instagram, Twitter and Pinterest accounts, to engage with other dads and mums in waiting like me!
Meanwhile, I’ve become uber attentive around my pregnant other half, infinitely more than usual, constantly asking how she’s feeling or if she needs anything, which has definitely raised a few eyebrows over the past month.
If we’re eating out with friends and she orders prawns, or has another cup of tea (too much caffeine is bad for the baby you see), I find myself jumping in with some random cryptic message about why she shouldn’t – something that must be both hugely annoying for her but also a dead giveaway that something’s up.
Not helping matters, whenever we’re in the company of pregnant couples, my well researched, knowing questions and encyclopaedic knowledge of what they must be going through during the first trimester, surely has given the game away?
I guess the moral of the story for expectant dads who find themselves in the same position as me is to just…RELAX!
If you give away some clue that you’re pregnant, don’t stress – in reality it’ll either go over their heads or they’ll be too polite to spoil the surprise. And if people suspect, let them.
Because at the end of the day, when you are ready to break the news, nothing in the world will dampen how happy they all are for you. Even if their first response on hearing it is inevitably, “I KNEW IT!!”
28 weeks and 1 day left to go…
I hope you’ve enjoyed today’s blog. As always I’d love to hear about your own personal experiences too, so if you have been through the same thing during your pregnancy, please do share your stories with the group via the comments section below!